If a picture could say a thousand words...this is it. We had waited for this moment for almost exactly a year from the moment we saw Kwesi's first picture and decided to pursue adopting him. For 7 days, while Jeremey was in Ghana this time- I lost sleep because of all the prayer and excitement that the week brought...and then finally they were on their way! The kids and I were just beside ourselves trying to get through the morning routine and make signs while we waited to go to the airport.
Jeremey and Kwesi missed their first flight in the U.S. in Atlanta, but he somehow managed to get on a flight to Denver that got them home 2 hours sooner than we had planned! Now THAT is the way to do it!
After all that waiting...they walked through the door! Aubrey ran straight to Daddy and the rest of us just stood in shock that our 6th family member was finally on U.S. Soil! I wondered all week how Kwesi would take to me after being with Jeremey and all the traveling. To my delight, he looked right at me and smiled from ear to ear, and even let me hold him so Jeremey could take a load off. Then he was off running around the airport with the kids...
Our first week together has been an amazing, happy blur. We have played to our hearts content as a family and bonded with Kwesi in ways I never thought would be possible this early in the adjustment phase. I can TRULY say that he feels like he was always meant to be our son. This breaks my heart because I know that the tragedy is there, and out of that tragedy comes something beautiful. I am thankful though that God knew him in the womb, even though it wasn't mine, and knew that we would one day receive the blessing of this precious boy. All parents say "yes" to being parents when they decide to try to get pregnant. We said "yes" to being his parents when we decided to try to adopt. It really is no different. I selfishly wanted Kwesi to be MINE. to be OURS.
I am a little disapointed in myself to say this but something about him makes me a better mom to all four of our children. I wish I had learned sooner to laugh more, love with abandon, overlook faults, and give grace while teaching and raising our children in the Lord. I have spent far too much time in the last 6 years of motherhood taking myself to seriously. Each of our children have taught me something about life and made me better. Kwesi has given me so much joy. He is like a refreshing drink of water on a hot day!
We planned and prepared for a lot of scenarios with bringing Kwesi home that I prayed would not happen, but got training and read up just in case. Well...we have had none of those things happen. It has been the most natural, joyful adjusment I can imagine! We have had to get used to a new level of noise, the boys rough-housing, and making A LOT more food. I am way behind on laundry and cleaning of pretty much EVERYTHING. lol but I don't even care.
Our biggest challenge now is reassuring the other 3 children that we still have enough love for them too, they won't get less time with us than before, and that we are living God's plan for our family.
Grayden asked us last week how we "knew" Kwesi was supposed to be in our family. We told him that we prayed and prayed, and God answered. But he wanted to know how God answered...did He talk to us? So we explained to him how God put Kwesi in our path, and opened wide every door and smashed every obstacle between us and him. I am so thankful for what this is teaching them about faith, God's love, and the radical life that we CHOOSE to live because Christ gave it all for us.
My heart is too full to even put words on a page. How does one describe an overwhelming joy? It's like the moment you first hold your brand new baby after hours of pushing! lol Our labor pains this time were in our hearts. Not so much in the physical realm but boy did we feel them! Now those struggles are forgotten and we are just thankful to God for a sweet, healthy, bundle of African joy.




Beautiful!!
ReplyDeleteThat is the sweetest writing I have read in a LONG time. You guys are amazing!
ReplyDeletesoo happy he is HOME. i wish i had known when this was all happening. i'd like to get with you and see if there is anything you need right now. meals maybe? i wish had asked people when we came home. so just be honest. :-) is there anything?
ReplyDeleteI found your blog through the Ghana Adoption FB group - my husband & I are adopting in the early stages of adopting a little boy from Ghana with Dillon... We have a son, then 2 daughters, so I was interested in reading your blog to see how the transition to 4 is going for you! I resonate so much with the words you have written!! I also feel as we are preparing for our 4th that God is teaching me through this how to be a better mom (not take myself or my kids too seriously... learn to be more go-with-the-flow through my day, etc.). Our blog is www.livingloveeph5.blogspot.com if you want to keep in touch! Thanks for sharing your journey & heart! (As a side note, I loved the latest post on teens! My husband & I work with the teens in our church & work during the school year 1 day a week as a nurse educator for an abstinence program for 8th & 9th grade students & LOVE IT ALL!! I know some people don't understand why I love teens so much, but felt like you could relate!!) :o)
ReplyDeleteHi, first of all, i have to say that this was such a lovely writing. And Iit actually made me cry a bit.. Cuz im happy. I actually knew Kwesi for one year. I was at Royal Seed from 2010 to 2011 and did a volunteerwork. I arrived to the orphanage just 2 weeks after him. From what i have heard you met Mecah?
ReplyDeleteMaybe you just think it's wierd that i write you but i thought that maybe it would be nice for you to get some of the pictures i have of him. If you want to then you can email me at lillisen@msn.com /Hillevi
i also worked voluntarily at the royal seed home in ghana with hillevi from the above comment and when she sent me the link to your blog and i saw that kwesi had been adopted i was extremely happy ..... kwesi was a very quite toddler...he liked being held all the time and hugs...i also have just so many pictures that i would be happy to send....he is your son and you will raise him as you wish but maybe one day you would like to explain to him how his first years where and i assume that the photos would help......what you did is wonderful and i was very emotional when i saw that you had adopted kwesi since he will finally have a better life with better education and better opportunities offered to him...... i would be very happy if you emailed me for anything you might need and to send you pics....i wish you all the best...niovi ( my email is spiridakos@otenet.gr)
ReplyDeleteI feel overwhelmed with happiness that Kwesi was given a chance to be apart of what seems to be a beautiful family. I too, like the others, volunteered at Royal Seed. Kwesi touched my heart while I was there and I thought of him often after I left. He was quiet, sweet, and loved to cuddle. I adored him. I have pictures that I also would love to send you if you would like them. I hope that he has settled into your family and his new life. Please contact me if you would like any pictures of Kwesi. rachel_lynn030@hotmail.com
ReplyDeleteWishing your family a life of happiness!
Rachel
Hey,
ReplyDeleteas the others above I was working in Royal Seed as a volunteer. I came with Hillevi in 2010 and stayed until sept. 2011.
i worked in Akwesis group for the whole year and I miss him every day. I just wanted to tell you how happy I am to see him beeing happy with you. Its so wonderful that he found a loving great family who his taking care of him. I can't even put in words what I feel right now. But now I can sleep better knowing that he has this wonderful home.
I guess you got enough pictures of him now, but if you want to know anything or you need something else you can always contact me: anna-stamm@gmx.de
I actually would be really happy if you contact me.
Take care of him, of youreself and of course of your whole family.
Whishing you all the best